JUST KICKING IT!!

Save yourself for the one from God. What's the harm in kicking it from time to time? When God designed you, He put everything inside you to fit the Boaz He designed for you. You were created beautiful, wonderfully made, more precious than rubies or diamonds. 

Along came bozo #1 and you cooked dinner for him while y'all were kicking it. What's the harm? After all, you love to cook. When bozo  #1 is out of the picture, he takes with him a part of that love for cooking. He leaves behind the pain and regret that you gave so much of your gift to someone undeserving. So when you meet the next guy, you have resolved not to cook. The harm in that is your Boaz is designed to love that about you. With each temporary experience, we are changed. This change is not always for the positive. Repeated experiences of disappointment and unfulfilled expectations slowly eat away at your mine of precious jewels. There is no future in just kicking it. There is no hope of commitment or planning for the future. The only thing to look forward to is the next time you will kick it. How much of your treasure will you lose the next time? How much hurt and disappointment will he leave with you? How will the soul connection changed who you are? Can you walk away as the Proverbs 31 woman that you were designed to be?

How do you know he's Bozo? You can't base this on looks, dress or location. You can find bozos in the street, at work, at the club and in the church. Yes, it is sad to say but they are in the church too. If he requests or requires you to lower your standard to be with him, that is Bozo. If he is okay with taking your virtue with no regard, that's a Bozo. If he wants husband treatment with boo or boyfriend status, that is a Bozo. 

The Bozo isn't worth it. Just kicking it isn't worth it. You leave a bit of your  soul with everyone that comes and goes. What's even worse is that an individual that had no plans of commitment or fidelity has left a part of them with you. Their patterns, attitude and behaviors have become a part of you.

Your Boaz will commit to you, plan a future with you, respect and honor you. He won't compromise your value because he is holding to a God standard also. Boaz is looking for his Ruth and not a Jezebel. Get a standard, raise your standard and hold to your standard. There are some goals and personal improvement tasks that need your attention.
Stop wasting your time just kicking it!!